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Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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i hate this bit of advice with a passion.
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Seconded.
I need a bit of advice here, meeting someone tomorrow for the 4th time all together, but the 2nd time recently, we first met last April a couple of times then didn't really contact each other, anyways tomorrow we meet again.
We haven't got physical.
If we dont then we will fall into the friend zone and that would suck!
So heres the problem, i need some ideas of what to do tomorrow night activity wise on a freezing Wednesday night, on our originally couple of dates we went for a drink first time, then bowling, this time, we went for a drink last week...
I like this girl, shes not touchy feely or anything tho so its hard to judge where shes coming from, but if she didnt like me i guess she wouldn't be coming out in the first place
We haven't got physical.
If we dont then we will fall into the friend zone and that would suck!
So heres the problem, i need some ideas of what to do tomorrow night activity wise on a freezing Wednesday night, on our originally couple of dates we went for a drink first time, then bowling, this time, we went for a drink last week...
I like this girl, shes not touchy feely or anything tho so its hard to judge where shes coming from, but if she didnt like me i guess she wouldn't be coming out in the first place
^^ do you get along well with her though?
Going out when it's freezing is a good thing... It means you can get close
It's going to be busy if you go anywhere near a cinema... as it'll be Orange Wednesday night. If you can cook and have your own place, invite her round for dinner maybe?
Going out when it's freezing is a good thing... It means you can get close
It's going to be busy if you go anywhere near a cinema... as it'll be Orange Wednesday night. If you can cook and have your own place, invite her round for dinner maybe?
To be honest I don't think many girls are touch feely, initially anyway. It's down to you to push the boundaries. Greet with a hug and maybe kiss on the cheek, could link arms on your way to wherever, have a thumb wrestle for fun, randomly high five etc. Then on the way home, not when you're about to part but a bit before just stop, turn to her and kiss her. At the end of the night you'll either have kissed, been rejected, or not have even attempted, make a choice.
There are a few options, what you are describe is a thing called kino escalation (and before you think I'm babbling some rubbish by people who think they're players just read first)
Basically to escalate from talking and being friends you have to make a girl comfortable with your subtle touches.
You can go about this in a variety of ways, but they have to look natural.
The main ones are touching hands, knees, lower part of back, face.
Now obviously you can't go about just poking a girl in these places, as you will look like a weirdo, so how do you do it.
I'll go through a few things or places that will make this more possible. (wont work for everyone)
You need confidence to do this naturally, and subtly if you do it mechanically you will be noticed.
Places.
Opening doors - Open the door then place you hand on the small of her lower back as a guide (don't push, just hold)
Sitting down - Touch your legs when sitting side by side (she will notice, but you can judge her reaction accordingly)
Playing pool - Show her how to hold the cue and bend etc, i.e the classic how to swing a golf club move)
Ice skating - For teenagers maybe, but the amount of touching here is incredible, holding hands for stability, falling lightly into each other etc. She is being a physical rapport here without evening knowing.
Touching her arm - This one is a good one for naturally building a connection, when you get excited about anything in a conversation, grab her forarm. (ud be surprised how often you touch someone your comfortable with without knowing)
Playing kino games - Pretend to be bale to read her mind, but to do so you need to hold her hand (cheesy and she'll probably notice but it helps) Ask her to think of a number between 1-4 (its normally 3) then do it again for 1-10 (its normally 7)
If you get the first one wrong, hold both hands if you get both wrong just laugh it off or at yourself, somehow) If you get both right then you'll look good
Touch her hands for stuff like looking at her weird and wonderful nail polish or rings etc.
Loud places - You might think it's hard to talk to someone in a loud place or mildly loud place, but it help if touch her arm whilst getting close to her ear. If your standing up touch the small of her back whilst hold her in to talk to her.
Try not to lean to much towards her, just get closer.
Moving through a crowd (very important I think) If it gets busy make sure you either hold her hand to lead her through the rabble or put your arm round her and yours out front to push a path.
You've got something in your hair/on you - Find a bit of fluff or make one up, and touch her hair to get rid of it.
Play keep away (sometimes work is you see something like her drivers licence and can snatch it lightly) then make her clamber on you to get it back
There just a few things I can think of, you would be surprised how they help once you do start doing them, and you'd be surprised how you start doing it naturally after a while. This moves are in a sense, semi agressive but subconsciously it makes you seem like a strong dominant type and she will pick up on it.
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Thanks man, need to get on this kino escalation, i usually play these type of games as it goes, but definitely a few there i can add to my arsenal, just need to thinking of a activity to do now, i guess could go grab something to eat or drink but thats pretty boring, its times like these i wish i live in London with stuff happening every night
Also I'd have to add don't talk about how humans as a species should be wiped out as we are a cancer on the earth and a horrible species... That doesn't go down to well.
I met one and she was crazy! Went out with her for about 3-4 months, she couldn't drive and lived with her mum, never wanted to stay round my place (she stayed three times in total) and when I stayed at hers I had to sleep in the spare bed!
Been a few months now so back on POF to see if I have better luck this time!
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Whereas I have not met anyone from dating web sites, so far! The girls I messaged didn't get back to me. At least I have a night out on Friday!
this is why they are on POF lol.
Thinking of going back to Internet Dating, get along well with a few of the chicks at work but i don't **** on my own doorstep and I've learnt the lesson about dating someone i work with before...the hard way >.<
Having a look at POF , most of the girls on there seem pretty normal, are there really that many crazy chicks out there?
Can't hurt to give it a go i guess, will probably help get completely over the ex too if i start dating again!
Having a look at POF , most of the girls on there seem pretty normal, are there really that many crazy chicks out there?
Can't hurt to give it a go i guess, will probably help get completely over the ex too if i start dating again!
Don't **** where you eat, as they say. I've seen a couple date, get engaged, married and then divorced within the space of 5 years at a firm. The atmosphere was not a nice one at the very last stage; they sat pretty close to one another!
Well, I had the date with the blonde girl last night... wow, she's amazing... as Jezza from Peep Shows would say... "I love her, I love her" hah. Ok I'm kidding but I really felt the pressure... she is beautiful, intelligent, cultured, the list goes on. Ended the night but can't for the life of me figure out if she really fancies me or not (though she was playing with her hair a lot and body language was alright)... which isn't a good sign for me as usually I know quickly. I think when I have nerves all my cool goes out of the window. Anway, hopefully going for another drink soon and I may have to play a bit of a waiting game. Bah.
Touche sir, I lol'd.
Touche sir, I lol'd.
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