Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Status
Not open for further replies.
Skyfall said:
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=30414570

*Waits for a ribbing.
Click to expand...
First of all, I'm not liking your first and last pic very much. Too posey.

Secondly, profile written in third person? What? Do you want a third person to go on your dates as well? I pretty much stopped reading as soon as I started reading the "He is a fun loving" part. BUT, I forced myself to read the rest just so I can give you feedback.

Thirdly, nothing stands out on your profile. It's just full of he this, he that, he loves, he likes... etc. As soon as I read "He...", I completely lost interest in reading the rest of the sentence.

Will not date.


Sorry :D
You need to rewrite that entire profile in your own words. Sell yourself. What would you think if you was a girl reading your profile? Before you start writing your profile again, write a list of all the things you do in your spare time, things you would like to do, words that describe your personality etc.. then string them up into sentences.
 
Kimi said:
Anyone care to destroy my profile? whilst i very much hope things workout with the girl at the moment, i dont want to put all the eggs in one basket yet.
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=2939793
Click to expand...
If I was a girl messaging you, I would have lots of questions. Which is kind of good I suppose, but at the same time I'm thinking... Jeez, can't you elaborate a bit more.

E.g. you like to be spontaneous and go on adventures? What kind of adventues? What kind of spontaneous things have you done in the past? What kind of 80's action movies do you like? What kind of physical sports do you enjoy?

Almost seems like so much effort on just the first message/reply to you. Profile is too vague IMO, you need to make it a bit more interesting.

Also, what's with the first sentence? "So.. i thought I would give this online dating thing a go as ive met some pretty awesome people over the years.".....

"I thought I would give this online dating thing a go" kind of suggests that this is your first time doing online dating. Yet you've met some pretty awesome people over the years? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it doesn't really make sense to me.
 
MisChief said:
If I was a girl messaging you, I would have lots of questions. Which is kind of good I suppose, but at the same time I'm thinking... Jeez, can't you elaborate a bit more.

E.g. you like to be spontaneous and go on adventures? What kind of adventues? What kind of spontaneous things have you done in the past? What kind of 80's action movies do you like? What kind of physical sports do you enjoy?

Almost seems like so much effort on just the first message/reply to you. Profile is too vague IMO, you need to make it a bit more interesting.

Also, what's with the first sentence? "So.. i thought I would give this online dating thing a go as ive met some pretty awesome people over the years.".....

"I thought I would give this online dating thing a go" kind of suggests that this is your first time doing online dating. Yet you've met some pretty awesome people over the years? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it doesn't really make sense to me.
Click to expand...

I'm not so sure. I think vagueness or piquing interest is the name of the game. If you're specifc I think it'll put many off.

I'm going to change my profile blurb when I get some new pics and try again. Not going to say I want to wine and dine again as I don't actually think that the internet females are actually looking for this.
 
Voltar said:
I'm not so sure. I think vagueness or piquing interest is the name of the game. If you're specifc I think it'll put many off.

I'm going to change my profile blurb when I get some new pics and try again. Not going to say I want to wine and dine again as I don't actually think that the internet females are actually looking for this.
Click to expand...
I can't speak for other girls, but to me it just seems like he CBA to write his profile and that maybe he's not a very good conversationalist.

At least if he gives a bit more detail on his interests then it will give other girls an idea as to whether they share the shame kind of interests or not.

It's like applying for a job and writing a vague covering letter... then expecting the employer to be curious and ask you questions. They will most likely just bin your application. Yeah, applying for a job is not quite the same as online dating, but at the end of the day you're still trying to sell yourself.
 
Kimi said:
Anyone care to destroy my profile? whilst i very much hope things workout with the girl at the moment, i dont want to put all the eggs in one basket yet.
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=2939793
Click to expand...

So.. i thought I would give this online dating thing a go as ive met some pretty awesome people over the years
Click to expand...

So are you giving this a go for the first time or just carrying on to meet people over the coming years like previously ? Two meanings = Bad.

You have to be Much smarter than that. ;)
 
Last edited:
MisChief said:
I can't speak for other girls, but to me it just seems like he CBA to write his profile and that maybe he's not a very good conversationalist.

At least if he gives a bit more detail on his interests then it will give other girls an idea as to whether they share the shame kind of interests or not.

It's like applying for a job and writing a vague covering letter... then expecting the employer to be curious and ask you questions. They will most likely just bin your application. Yeah, applying for a job is not quite the same as online dating, but at the end of the day you're still trying to sell yourself.
Click to expand...

I agree with what you've posted and that's actually rather a good post.

Still hoping that "real life" might throw an opportunity my way before launching into the online world again
 
Good points guys/girls, ill edit that bit now.

I didnt want to be to specific and tried to purposely leave things open to questioning, ill round off a few of those now.

I need to get some new pictures as well because most of them are from last summer when i was a lot heavier

With my physical activities, i like to lift weights, i didn't want to throw that in case i was stereotyped as a meat head lol
 
First date tonight of 2 this weekend from Oasis, second tomorrow. Just hope the weather holds off a little for tomorrow as the car isn't going anywhere and she's lives 8 miles away!

The blizzards just starting to hit Halifax! Best get wrapped up warm!
 
Kimi said:
id wear one extra layer, just in case shes cold and you can do the gentlemanly thing!

I just updated the profile txt on my err profile... any better?
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=2939793
Click to expand...
A bit better but there's still space for improvement :p

Lose, not loose. You make it sound like the only things you can do in life is clubbing or online dating? :confused:

I would go into more detail about what weird things you like to cook. Don't name it all, but just a few to get girls curious.

The reference to dressing up as pirates... sounds like your 'adventures' = fancy dress parties?
 
@Kimi

That is better but lose the word Weird. Anybody that says they are Mad, Freaky Weird etc isn't at all & are normally straighter than most.
 
Since I began posting in this wonderful thread my observations have lead me to conclude that one has to stand out from the crowd to get attention in this elusive online dating world.

No longer can you continue to lead that boring and monotonous life that you may happen to like. Now when I say “boring and monotonous” I actually mean “normal” You may like those quiet evenings in front of the TV or PC after a hard day’s work, or going to the cinema on a weekend. But no, that simply isn't enough, whatever were you thinking?

You now have to pick some disparate hobby or activity that, when written on your profile will pop out the screen and scream “YES, look at me! I'm the one you want. Look how I partake in something that the hundred other people you've just dismissed didn't do”

But wait that isn't enough! You can’t just rely on this newly acquired whim. You have to write about yourself in the correct manner too. You need to be interesting, mysterious and enticing in your writing style, so that the potential suitor will be positively yearning to initiate contact with you. However don’t be too mysterious as you run the risk of coming across as apathetic and disinterested. There’s a fine line so don’t cross it!

Be careful what words you use too, you don’t want to be misconstrued when you say you like to go a little crazy sometimes.

And once all that is done, all you have to do is upload some pictures of your fine self, easier said than done. Don’t pose and don’t take the picture yourself with half your arm in the frame. Get somebody else to take your picture when you’re not expecting it, to give it that “natural” look. Even better get one taken participating in this outrageous new hobby you took up.

Oh, but if you’re ugly none of this really matters anyway.
 
Ljt - you've just hit the nail on the head!
Female friend of mine went on there for a couple of weeks and got a bf out of it. I go on every few weeks and am lucky to get a reply. Thinking I should try the lie technique and say I'm a CEO etc and I'll buy everything etc. Then see what happens.... Got a feeling shallowness is often what it is. I deliberately avoid looking at the pictures and go purely off what's written so I'm not a hypocrite.

Weird how I can get dates with girls normally but not online?
I don't think I'm a munter(apart from lack of hair) and I do enough extreme stuff and 'man stuff' (DIY etc) and have been called a gentleman several times. Doesn't mean a lot if you aren't given the chance though. Ho-hum.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top Bottom