Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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I have been keeping an eye on this thread and it has tipped me over the edge and I have signed up for a POF account.
I have no idea if my profile is any good and I only have two pictures of myself, but I guess I will have to see how I get on. I have had a few views (I think) but no messages so far.
I have no idea if my profile is any good and I only have two pictures of myself, but I guess I will have to see how I get on. I have had a few views (I think) but no messages so far.
Get sending messages out, in what world do women come to you?
A happy world with unicorns and rainbows
I have been daring and sent one message. Perhaps I need to whore myself out more with messages
A happy world with unicorns and rainbows
I have been daring and sent one message. Perhaps I need to whore myself out more with messages
You really do, believe me. I'm lucky to get 1 reply for every 10 messages I send.
Could some peeps see if my profile is ok or not or how I can improve it or make it stand out in anyway. It feels a bit generic to me but I am not sure how it comes across at all:
"This was a lot easier in my head then trying to write this down, so I will just babble on about me and I will go on from there.
Firstly, I want to apologise for the photos. I do have some better pictures that I will upload. I usually prefer to be on the other side of the camera!
I enjoy socialising with my friends and like going to pubs and bars as I am not really into the clubbing scene anymore. I play hockey for a local club and I also practice martial arts. I am also interested in photography and I have also just started road running as well.
I am a pretty laid back person and have a good sense of humour and I don't take myself too seriously. I always look out for my friends and family and try to help out whenever I can. I am a bit of a geek and I like technology and science.
I would like to travel someday and if I do get the chance to go, I would like to travel around Asia (Japan, Hong Kong, China etc) as I like the culture and the food!"
Any help would be great!
"This was a lot easier in my head then trying to write this down, so I will just babble on about me and I will go on from there.
Firstly, I want to apologise for the photos. I do have some better pictures that I will upload. I usually prefer to be on the other side of the camera!
I enjoy socialising with my friends and like going to pubs and bars as I am not really into the clubbing scene anymore. I play hockey for a local club and I also practice martial arts. I am also interested in photography and I have also just started road running as well.
I am a pretty laid back person and have a good sense of humour and I don't take myself too seriously. I always look out for my friends and family and try to help out whenever I can. I am a bit of a geek and I like technology and science.
I would like to travel someday and if I do get the chance to go, I would like to travel around Asia (Japan, Hong Kong, China etc) as I like the culture and the food!"
Any help would be great!
Think I'm gonna have a break from POF, I have such bad luck lol.
This nice girl messaged me, we've been chatting since last week but we've been busy so we originally arranged to meet up Wednesday just gone, she cancelled on Tuesday evening saying she was doing something with her friends instead. This was fine, I was understanding and said let me know when you're free to meet up then.
She text me yesterday saying we could meet up tomorrow (Friday).
Then today she text me saying "Rossy
bad news, next week?".
Wednesday - cancelled
Friday - cancelled
Now she wants to try next week, I'm annoyed..my mind is telling me to just forget her but she is nice but I don't like being messed about, 2 cancellations within a week isn't good..
This nice girl messaged me, we've been chatting since last week but we've been busy so we originally arranged to meet up Wednesday just gone, she cancelled on Tuesday evening saying she was doing something with her friends instead. This was fine, I was understanding and said let me know when you're free to meet up then.
She text me yesterday saying we could meet up tomorrow (Friday).
Then today she text me saying "Rossy
bad news, next week?".Wednesday - cancelled
Friday - cancelled
Now she wants to try next week, I'm annoyed..my mind is telling me to just forget her but she is nice but I don't like being messed about, 2 cancellations within a week isn't good..
I think so too. She drops hints sometimes that makes me think she's really insecure. When I give her a compliment she always rejects it and says something like "I know you're joking, I'm ugly" and things like "How do you know you will fancy me when we meet up, you're probably gonna think im a monster" even though she's sent me a few pictures and I do find her attractive..
I get the feeling she's not very experienced with the dating scene though. Ah well..
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"Hi, I've really enjoyed chatting & getting to know you recently but I'm here with the intention of dating. Let's set a date & time, no excuses or backing out from either of us! Otherwise, it's been fun & take care."
Or just sack it off and look elsewhere, depends whether you think it's worth one more go at getting past her shyness/other dates
"Hi, I've really enjoyed chatting & getting to know you recently but I'm here with the intention of dating. Let's set a date & time, no excuses or backing out from either of us! Otherwise, it's been fun & take care."
Or just sack it off and look elsewhere, depends whether you think it's worth one more go at getting past her shyness/other dates
I've decided not to pursue her. I feel bad because she is nice but I just can't be bothered to do deal with it all now.
I've been messed about by so many girls in the past few months I honestly think I just need to take a few months break. Plus I always get the feeling I'll meet the right girl unsuspectingly instead of looking for her everywhere, I try too hard lol. I'm on multiple date sites/apps and it doesn't look promising from my experience
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Not where I prowl in London, no. Girls here tend to be the educated independent type who shivers at the thought of having a child. While that's handy, it also brings its own dose of problems
Care to elaborate? Every girl I meet IRL ends up talking about settling down and having kids and I end up laying my cards on the table and saying "see ya".
What age are these girls you meet up with? If they're 30+ then yeah, doesn't surprise me if they're talking about wanting to settle down and have kids
I've been talking to a guy who is 4 years older than me and my god he's so keen it makes me sick - and we haven't even met yet! Won't stop banging on about me moving in with him (as a "joke" apparently), always talking about how he wants his own family and kids, keeps hounding me about meeting up.. "Are you free on the weekend? How about Weds, or Thurs, or Fri?? If not, how about next Mon or Tues or the following week??". I've already told him several times that I don't have time and I want nothing more than friends. He goes "there's no rush, I can wait. We haven't even met yet, you never know you might change your mind
".. I've stopped talking to him but he won't stop messaging me 
I've been messaging a really nice French girl. She seems great, but she's in France until mid august!
Sever.
/Magnolia.
just came back from a semi-date, girl started talking about children 
I'm only 23 damn it, this is supposed to make things easier not make me question whether I'm the only sane person in south Wales...
first reply in a long time and I pick up the insane/bunny boiler...
I'm only 23 damn it, this is supposed to make things easier not make me question whether I'm the only sane person in south Wales...
first reply in a long time and I pick up the insane/bunny boiler...
What age are these girls you meet up with? If they're 30+ then yeah, doesn't surprise me if they're talking about wanting to settle down and have kids
26-30 range. I'd quite like to meet someone that just wants to enjoy life, do a load of travelling and live without the stress of kids but it seems like a big ask. My sister keeps trying to set me up with her single mates but they all have ticking biological clocks so I end up running a mile.
Looks like me and Jill 4eva x
Why are we never satisfied with what we have? Hear me out.
So I've whittled down my dating to two girls now. Got sick of dating anything and everything.
Girl 1. Swedish, beautiful. Good heart, lovely personality, good job and pays her way on every date despite my protests. We get on great, I've met some of her friends and her sisters and we all got on fantastically. Got inordinately drunk on Saturday during Midsummer and she dragged me back to her cave afterwards (take that literal and figuratively). Saw her twice this week and her sister tells me she talks about me all the time and really likes me. She's always really excited to see me and sad to see me go without being clingy at all. So, strong possibility of taking things all the way with her. But,
Enter girl 2.
Finnish, tall (very very tall, as in 6'1, I'm touching 6'3 but she wears heels), stunning, super smart, her personality almost mirrors mine, her humour is dark like mine, we both love the same things .... but she's in the last throws of a long distance relationship. So technically, still attached. Think I mentioned it here. Now she offered me a NSA relationship until it's officially over, but somehow I think I want a bit more as we get on so well. I've been very careful not letting that on and spend most of our dates insulting and teasing her. In a friendly comfortable way. Emotionally she seems to be confused. She talks about her 'boyfriend' but that it will be over soon. 10% of my mind tells me she is blatantly cheating, the other 90% wants to believe her.
I want to slap myself. Here I have a gorgeous girl (Swede) wanting to be with me, but I want the dark horse where there may or may not be a future.
Why are we so stupid sometimes?
So I've whittled down my dating to two girls now. Got sick of dating anything and everything.
Girl 1. Swedish, beautiful. Good heart, lovely personality, good job and pays her way on every date despite my protests. We get on great, I've met some of her friends and her sisters and we all got on fantastically. Got inordinately drunk on Saturday during Midsummer and she dragged me back to her cave afterwards (take that literal and figuratively). Saw her twice this week and her sister tells me she talks about me all the time and really likes me. She's always really excited to see me and sad to see me go without being clingy at all. So, strong possibility of taking things all the way with her. But,
Enter girl 2.
Finnish, tall (very very tall, as in 6'1, I'm touching 6'3 but she wears heels), stunning, super smart, her personality almost mirrors mine, her humour is dark like mine, we both love the same things .... but she's in the last throws of a long distance relationship. So technically, still attached. Think I mentioned it here. Now she offered me a NSA relationship until it's officially over, but somehow I think I want a bit more as we get on so well. I've been very careful not letting that on and spend most of our dates insulting and teasing her. In a friendly comfortable way. Emotionally she seems to be confused. She talks about her 'boyfriend' but that it will be over soon. 10% of my mind tells me she is blatantly cheating, the other 90% wants to believe her.
I want to slap myself. Here I have a gorgeous girl (Swede) wanting to be with me, but I want the dark horse where there may or may not be a future.
Why are we so stupid sometimes?
Stick with girl no 1. No buts. Girl no.2 is just.. Do you even need to question it?!
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