Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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MisChief said:
When I was on POF I purposely selected my ethnicity as 'Other' to reduce the number of messages I receive from Asians (a lot of Asians search for Asians). I prefer not to date Asians but I didn't state that in my profile as I thought it would be rude.
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RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACIST.

On okc, I get a fair few asian people look at my profile but the percentages are always 50%-60% which would seem to prove your point.

I always state a true reflection of what I am on my profile - in the case of my height, it's 5ft8, no point putting anything else because it'll just be awkward if you ever did get a date.

Personally, i'm finding it difficult to meet any girl, period.
 
Zefan said:
A lot of the time I am just playing devil's advocate, and I will admit that this point means little/nothing to me and I just like highlighting other's flawed logic.

How is it any different? Race = not something you can change. Height = not something you can change. Some women only like to date black guys, and they say so on their profiles.

There's only one thing worse than racism, and that's people being so scared of being racist that they pussyfoot around for a year and a day "in case someone gets offended :(:(:(" instead of just coming out with their perfectly reasonable opinion or preference.
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I agree, many people are too PC about things like that... but it's just a fact of life that race is and will be for some time one of the most sensitive issues in this world. While I agree too much pussyfooting is done in some respects, I also think that there's some awareness required when dealing with it... there's a fine line that people WILL take offence to very easily, even if no malice is meant on the writers part, and sometimes that just has to be taken into account.

Sucks, but that's life.
 
Zefan said:
A lot of the time I am just playing devil's advocate, and I will admit that this point means little/nothing to me and I just like highlighting other's flawed logic.

How is it any different? Race = not something you can change. Height = not something you can change. Some women only like to date black guys, and they say so on their profiles.

There's only one thing worse than racism, and that's people being so scared of being racist that they pussyfoot around for a year and a day "in case someone gets offended :(:(:(" instead of just coming out with their perfectly reasonable opinion or preference.
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I don't date stupid people! Grrrrrr :p
 
"That's life" - only because we back down and apologise to people when they say they're offended. Just because someone's offended by something, it doesn't mean it matters. I could be equally (or more) offended by someone saying they won't meet me because I'm under 6ft than a Korean guy is by the "No asians!" comment. Does it matter? Does it ****!

Stop saying "Oh I'm so sorry I really didn't mean to hurt your feelings :(:(:(, I'll change it if you like :) <3" and maybe it won't be life, and maybe it won't suck.
 
Zefan said:
"That's life" - only because we back down and apologise to people when they say they're offended. Just because someone's offended by something, it doesn't mean it matters. I could be equally (or more) offended by someone saying they won't meet me because I'm under 6ft than a Korean guy is by the "No asians!" comment. Does it matter? Does it ****!
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Short arse. Wouldnotdate/20
 
Zefan said:
"That's life" - only because we back down and apologise to people when they say they're offended. Just because someone's offended by something, it doesn't mean it matters. I could be equally (or more) offended by someone saying they won't meet me because I'm under 6ft than a Korean guy is by the "No asians!" comment. Does it matter? Does it ****!

Stop saying "Oh I'm so sorry I really didn't mean to hurt your feelings :(:(:(, I'll change it if you like :) <3" and maybe it won't be life, and it won't suck.
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It can bother some people though, quite a lot of things bother me though. openly stating "yolo" is an instant no. perhaps It's just me thinking too deeply, Personality is very hard to put into a few sentences and can either put some people off or not bother some.
 
Sinny said:
It can bother some people though
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So what? This comes back to my point where I initially didn't agree with your post. Having an issue with what she said is fine, but posting on here in a manner that assumes we're all going to have the same issue with it doesn't make sense.
 
Zefan said:
So what? This comes back to my point where I initially didn't agree with your post. Having an issue with what she said is fine, but posting on here in a manner that assumes we're all going to have the same issue with it doesn't make sense.
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Fair enough, but that's with most opinions though. everyone has a different or the same opinion. I didn't come here expecting everyone to agree with me though, I think you're reading too much into it.

Anyway moving on.. :)
 
Richdog said:
Even geek chicks like a guy to look their best on dating sites. It's nothing to do with how "cool" (I just used the word off-hand, not in a true sense, you know what I meant) you actually are, but everyone will judge you based on those pics, and I think many would be a bit put off, including girls you'd probably like to date and that would maybe suited to you. It's not complicated psychology... people look at photos and make snap decisions of whether to read the profile or not, so look your best and get better results. However, completely up to you I guess. :p
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the troulbe i have from what you've said, is i literally have no idea what other photos to use to look better, as tbh i don't know what would look better...

i could put on my work gear if you'd like, but i dress down for work most days, the same for out in town, i can't think of a single photo where i look better, assuming we're saying it's the clothes and poses you think need ot be improved? I have loads of photos of me, just none that are really any different from the ones that I've already put up.
 
Does anyone else seem to get bored when you're the only one asking all the questions, I'm throwing some good banter and all I get is a few words back for my effort, I gauge that they're not interested so stop messaging then get messages a few hours later.
 
mrbell1984 said:
Doesn't matter how much you banter on in your profile description. IF people don't like your picture they won't reply.
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No it's not my profile, it's when we're talking I send something to get the conversation going and I get a few one liners back so I think they're just being nice and stop messaging only to get messages again a few hours later.

I get the obligatory "Hi, how are you?" and try breaking the ice with something funny (or atleast I think it is) only for some crap response to get thrown my way.
 
Sinny said:
No it's not my profile, it's when we're talking I send something to get the conversation going and I get a few one liners back so I think they're just being nice and stop messaging only to get messages again a few hours later.

I get the obligatory "Hi, how are you?" and try breaking the ice with something funny (or atleast I think it is) only for some crap response to get thrown my way.
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Not sure if you understand what I mean. If someone looks at your profile first thing they look at is the pictures (most people) even if you message them first. If you send messages to them they may reply but most won't anyway.
 
mrbell1984 said:
Not sure if you understand what I mean. If someone looks at your profile first thing they look at is the pictures (most people) even if you message them first. If you send messages to them they may reply but most won't anyway.
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I think he's trying to say the wench can't hold a decent conversation if her life depended on it.
 
mrbell1984 said:
They might be busy or basically they doesn't wan't to chat to them but just been polite by sending one message or one line messages.
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That's what I think, So I stop sending them messages as I think they're either just being polite/not interested only for me to get "hey, what are you up to?" a few hours down the line.

for example, I've just wrote a few sentences about what I'm considering doing over the new few months (nothing long), then I get "You seem like my kinda guy xxx", I can't seem to respond to stuff like that, is it me or is it damn hard or near impossible?

Probably is me, but I like it when I get a genuine response to what I've wrote as opposed to something short.
 
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