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Foxeye, dude..

Stop talking yourself into depression. You are twice as good looking as me and I look like I've been set on fire and put out with a shovel.
I feel like a social retard too you know... but I make an effort (and it is ****ing difficult) Just get out there and get in amongst it. Ripoffthemonkey will have you dancing with the hotties in no time.. (He has a certain way with them lol)
He's my brother and he was first in the queue for the charm and looks department.
Am I bitter... Am I ****. There are a hell of a lot of people worse off than myself. I count myself lucky at being able to walk and talk unaided.
There's no harm in bigging yourself up a little to get your foot in the (back) door.
Hell the first 20 attempts at copping off might fail epically, but I'll bet you'll have learnt a lesson from each one of them.
 
I'm 20 and in the same situation, I've already planned out my future how alone I'll be when I'm 30/40/50 etc. Going to have a cat though :)

I can talk to people in every day conversation, but when it gets anything more than very mild flirtation I don't know what to do. I don't drink (quite a feat being at uni imo), so don't like clubs, could never starting talking to a girl I randomly meet so generally don't meet that many new people often. I get nervous everytime there is a house party and people I don't know are invited. Not sure what to do, I've diagnosed myself with a social disorder of some sort :p
 
Doohickey said:
And then?
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Nix said:
No and then!
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Castiel said:
What's with the sigs.....:)
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Nix being a hilarious japer :p
 
DJmartin said:
He posted his plentyoffish profile on last page.
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Thanks.


WTF.....I was expecting some kind of mongoloid half-human instead he is just a normal bloke.

Foxeye, get yourself out and about, you shouldn't have too much hassle meeting people as long as you remember to just be yourself, do not try to think of witty things to say, or topics to talk about. Just talk about what you normally talk about and the rest is easy.
 
Im also 20 and in the same boat.


I was once in a club when a Hen party came in and started dishing out Cards that had challanges on them.


I was given one that involved snogging a random bird... But i made up an excuse and got out of it purely because i was too scared incase i made a tit of myself.

I dont mind meeting female friends, but once they start flirting etc i crap myself. Lack of self confidence i guess.
 
Klo said:
I'm 20 and in the same situation, I've already planned out my future how alone I'll be when I'm 30/40/50 etc. Going to have a cat though :)
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There is your first mistake right there. Don't plan anything, you will only depress yourself.

Klo said:
I can talk to people in every day conversation,
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That is all you have to do, nothing more.

Klo said:
but when it gets anything more than very mild flirtation I don't know what to do. I don't drink (quite a feat being at uni imo), so don't like clubs, could never starting talking to a girl I randomly meet so generally don't meet that many new people often.
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Sink a bottle of Jim Beam and hit every club in whatever city you live in. I guarantee you will wake up with someone, and after the initial shock you will be just fine. If you don't like loud music then wear ear plugs, you can't hear anything anyone says anyway, so that also solves the conversation issue.

Nightclub + Jim Beam = sex.


Klo said:
I get nervous everytime there is a house party and people I don't know are invited. Not sure what to do, I've diagnosed myself with a social disorder of some sort :p
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Again, bottle of Jim Beam...problem solved.
 
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Castiel said:
I am truely flabbergasted that at 30 you have never kissed a girl and I am not taking the micky, I feel for you, I really do, it must be pretty hard and I can understand why you must find it hard to interact with girls given that is all you seem to know.
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flabbergasted, really? i can imagine how it could happen. if he has been bullied at school and then finished school but the effects of the bullying is still set in, it's quite accepatable that he's simply gone from school, into work and been afraid to socialise. we all know how fast life moves out of school and before he's known it, 30 is here.

sorry to talk like you are some kind of subject here op, i don't mean too but i can see how this situation can arise.

one simple point on your pof profile, change ''techie'' to ''technician''. it appears that you have set yourself up to fail, put your defences up. there's no point doing this, if anything an internet profile on a dating site is a way to ''exaggerate'' yourself, this might get you a bit of interest and maybe a few dates. this will bring experience (if nothing else) of being one on one with a girl. most girls are caring, you'll no the ones who are not (even though this is probably them having their own problems, but just showing it in a different way) and will give you a chance if anything to ask them for a few pointers, most girls would happily do this, (may cost you a few meal tabs though) but if you want to break this cycle, these are the kind of steps you need to take. the good thing is, is that you know there is something better for you than the current cycle your life is on.

word of warning though, most girls have some sort of issue, be it trivial or totally controlling of their life, just be prepared to try and understand or just listen and pretend you understand, that kind of stuff goes a heck of a long way. if you can make them laugh, you're half way there, just don't try too hard.
 
Srs advice - OP go do something interesting, go travel round the world or be a hiking guide in Austria or a ski guide in the Alps or road trip across the US or motorbike down to South Africa or go to a surf camp in Portugal or.. etc etc

For a start it will magnify your chances of getting action 'on-trip' and at worst you will actually have something interesting to talk about which indirectly will magnify your chances of getting action for the rest of your life.

Or a cheap version, just look on Wikipedia and make up stories like how awesome travelling was in your gap yah or how you are a Nascar driver undergoing rehab for a massive fireball explosion crash that you had last season blah blah blah blah
 
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