missus found me looking at pron

stinka said:
basicaly i got in from work and she came in and found me looking at pron

shes goin off her head saying i dont love her etc.

this isnt helped by the fact she checked my emails and i had one from an internet dating site about me wanting a new password etc.

i only replied to an email from dating company as they had a security breach and needed everyone to reset there passwords

i do love her, we've been together for a year, but shes insecure at best and obviously this situation hasnt helped

any positive advice greatly appreciated

de stink
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Did you not hear her open the door or walk in? I that time you could have closed it :p

Or is she like a ninja?
 
Craig321 said:
Did you not hear her open the door or walk in? I that time you could have closed it :p

Or is she like a ninja?
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i paniced and my hand started shaking and i just couldnt hit the X

she was in and like "hi..... oh whats going on"

theres me starkers with a lob on "er nothing love" frantically clicking me mouse.....:o .... bang to rights TBH
 
stinka said:
i paniced and my hand started shaking and i just couldnt hit the X

she was in and like "hi..... oh whats going on"

theres me starkers with a lob on "er nothing love" frantically clicking me mouse.....:o .... bang to rights TBH
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LOL
Sorry, fella, but that's funny. You'll laugh about it one day.
 
My miss's decided to search my history some 4-5yrs ago and found the pron sites (while I was away up north), got home, got a rollocking "how dare you look at porn without me (wtf!!!!???), you don't love me blah blah blah". she knows I look at it all the time now :D, but I ALWAYS delete my history now.
 
knip said:
I personally wouldnt have a problem with my other half (if I had one) looking at pr0n. The thing that would bother me is if they were doing it in secret and then I found out.

Like I said it doesnt bother me in the least, but I am slightly intruiged as to why men who are in relationships and already have sex on tap then indulge in self love as well. I understand if the bloke is single that certain "things" need to happen, but why do men who already have a real life woman bother looking at others on the net. Im really not complaining, im just trying to understand.
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Variety tbh. Generaly speaking sex / love are two completely different things for men (although they can of course coincide) who are geneticaly coded to try and impregnate as many women as possible to make sure their genes continue. Checking out Pr0n even in a safe relationship with sex on tap is just a by product of that urge.







That's my excuse and I'm sticking to it... :)
 
Tell her that pretty much all blokes look at (and exercise with) porn, she is now one of the lucky few partners who knows about it, she should then feel enlightened and happy about the situation :)
 
stinka said:
basicaly i got in from work and she came in and found me looking at pron

shes goin off her head saying i dont love her etc.

this isnt helped by the fact she checked my emails and i had one from an internet dating site about me wanting a new password etc.

i only replied to an email from dating company as they had a security breach and needed everyone to reset there passwords

i do love her, we've been together for a year, but shes insecure at best and obviously this situation hasnt helped

any positive advice greatly appreciated

de stink
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its got nothing to do with love, glad im not married
 
knip said:
I personally wouldnt have a problem with my other half (if I had one) looking at pr0n. The thing that would bother me is if they were doing it in secret and then I found out.

Like I said it doesnt bother me in the least, but I am slightly intruiged as to why men who are in relationships and already have sex on tap then indulge in self love as well. I understand if the bloke is single that certain "things" need to happen, but why do men who already have a real life woman bother looking at others on the net. Im really not complaining, im just trying to understand.
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Telling a GF you "look" at porn is like playing russian roulette.
Damned if we do, damned if we don't.
 
My ex caught me cracking one out in bed...I pretended to be asleep then when she confronted me the next morning, I looked really upset and pretended that I suffered from a form of sleep-walking that really got to me and made me feel bad.

Two bonuses: she made me breakfast and we had a bit of fun...AND I could do it again without fear of reprimand.

*n
 
Guru said:
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ROFL. I spat out my breakfast with laughter reading that.

stoofa said:
Assuming the original post isn't some kind of joke - because lets be honest, the OcUK forums fill up with such posts on a daily basis from some of the "younger" members, you really want advice?

As anybody who is actually in or has been in a relationship (minority of people on these forums it would appear) will tell you the keys to a successful relationship are communication, understanding and realising you are not always right - oh and being open & honest will help you too.

You want to look at pron?
Then you either need to do it totally in secrecy when you are sure nobody is around, keep your computer securely locked at all times and if ever asked say "No".
Then you can continue with this "Only natural" thing and nobody will get hurt.
You can feel good watching the pron, your girlfriend isn't made to feel unloved or inadequate and you can just get on with your life.

Your other option - realise you are in a relationship, grow up, get some balls and communicate.
Tell your other half that you look at pron and take it from there.
When she asks about why you do it tell her the truth (whatever that is).
When she explains that by you looking at that material she is made to feel inadequate and to be honest if you've got her why do you feel the need to look at such material, you can explain why.

Relationships can be hard work as it is and all you are doing is making yours even more difficult.
I'm assuming you've never been in any real long term relationship before - if you had then this thread shouldn't exist as you should be communicating with your partner enough to have either stopped looking at this material, agreed to disagree with her and although she isn't happy about it she knows you look but she never gets it rubbed in her face that you are looking at it or your exploring other options with the material.
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This is excellant advice going to some one who perhaps needs to take the situation a bit more seriously and appreciate their "loved ones" feelings on the matter.

The above still applies, but I AM going to give you 5 stars LMFAO.
 
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