Relationships and Gaming

i try to be fair with my gaming time. luckily my missus is quite understanding, often she asks if i am putting it on during the weekend whilst she browses on her laptop. i try not to take the mickey. luckily my kids seem to be growing up as gamers too. :)
 
My GF is totally cool with it and plays games herself - mostly singleplayer stuff these days; she just finished Walking Dead Season 1 and Bioshock Infinite fairly recently, but does more playing on the PS3 than on my PC because she prefers sitting in the living room (she's onboard with the idea of making a Steambox to get the PC games on the TV in the future too :D)

Still I don't think she would like it if I spent all evening playing every day and all day at the weekends - give & take you know... I generally play when she's watching something on TV that I am not interested in, or if she is showering or drying her hair or something like that. Works out usually an hour or two most nights which I think is plenty.

All you guys saying "stay up later" I think you're missing a trick (and presumably don't have to be at work early every day) - I quite often get up at the weekends a bit earlier than she does and play for an hour or two over a cup of coffee :)
 
I try and stick to gaming either whilst my wife and son are out somewhere, or after he's gone to bed - I make sure I leave some time at the end of the evening to spend with her too though :)
 
Azrael1 said:
My wife who I have been with for 3 years understands and in a strange kinda way is happy that im a gaming geek. She always brings me drinks and food when Im gaming online. She never plays games herself but shes happy because 1. Im not out getting drunk all the time. 2. Not having online affairs. 3. Not wasting money gambling etc.

I do however make sure we have quality time together - days outs / nights outs / meals / theatre shows etc.

We always make time to watch Game of thrones/ American Horror / Spartacus together and any other good shows.
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This sounds exactly like me and my missus. She'll take my gaming time as a chance to watch her "America's fattest loser" and the like, occasionally bringing me snacks/tea/etc. And I make sure that we maintain our ritual watching of shows we both like (walking dead etc) and go out for dinner, etc to spend time together.

She does wind me up on purpose by pretending I'd promised to do something with her on a big game release night just to see my sad face not remembering whether I had or not. "b b b but it's BF4 release" :( But now I'm wise to it so she doesn't get me as often.
 
I've been with my wife for 13 years and she knew I was a gamer when we met. We tend to have set nights for what we do, thats once the children are in bed at 7pm. Monday and Tuesday are gaming nights. Wednesdays I watch a film with a mate, while she uses my PC for loserbook, what a waste of a gaming PC :D Thursday's is TV night for us, I just love Sky+ as I never watch a programe when it's actually on and I can skip the ads. Friday and Saturday are Movie nights for us and Sunday is currently American football night, go Bengals!

She never moans when I spend money on the PC, she even talked me in to buying a 7990 when OC had them for £390 the other weekend :)
 
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It's funny i was just about to start a new thread when i found this one.. I like most the 'missus' is fine with me gaming also i have woken her up a couple of times shouting "i'm down, i'm down, revive me" (the division) not once moaned about it tho.. but better not push it
 
Kyrne said:
Turned my wife into a gamer. Win.
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My fiancée likes to watch me play games like Zelda, Tomb Raider and Bioshock.

She puts up with the multiplayer gaming as I play a few nights a week when she's gone to bed.
 
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Still a massive stigma attached to it, it's an instant turn off for many women. It's seen as nerdy and a sign of weakness.

You can sort of understand why though, if you're sat for hours every day playing games, not giving her much attention and expecting her to just be fine with it you're very lucky, and even then you have the stories of her getting the attention elsewhere :p Bring kids into the equation and you pretty much have to give up any kind of gaming sessions.

I do think many use it as an escape but it's no different to those who get in and watch TV all night, but that's accepted as you can go into work and talk about it the next day, mention gaming to people who aren't into it and you just come across as weird.
 
When I met my wife to be she was already well aware that I was a gamer. I told her that it was an important hobby for me at the time.....she supposedly understood :)

With me being married and having children its about balance. As long as I give them time before I embark on some epic RPG I have got my teeth into she is generally ok.....

One cheap punch I have used though is that I got my son into gaming. He has his own xbox and wii u, and we generally play the lego games together. This gets me off the hook with my wife a lot.

If its ok for him.....its ok for me because we are 'bonding' while playing it :)
 
Ayahuasca said:
Still a massive stigma attached to it, it's an instant turn off for many women. It's seen as nerdy and a sign of weakness.

You can sort of understand why though, if you're sat for hours every day playing games, not giving her much attention and expecting her to just be fine with it you're very lucky, and even then you have the stories of her getting the attention elsewhere :p Bring kids into the equation and you pretty much have to give up any kind of gaming sessions.

I do think many use it as an escape but it's no different to those who get in and watch TV all night, but that's accepted as you can go into work and talk about it the next day, mention gaming to people who aren't into it and you just come across as weird.
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I don't think it does any more, but that may because I'm younger than you. I can't remember any girls my age ever looking down or finding my gaming habit strange. Still on a mission to try and get my GF playing some stuff. :p
 
Missus doesnt complain really, unless I dont pause a game when she comes in to tell me something, she still hasnt got her head around always online games like the division and destiny, you cant pause them! :confused:

Anyway she even brought me a PS4 so she could watch me play games, that lasted a few months now she just leaves me alone :D
 
MikeTheNative said:
I don't think it does any more, but that may because I'm younger than you. I can't remember any girls my age ever looking down or finding my gaming habit strange. Still on a mission to try and get my GF playing some stuff. :p
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If yours is one bit similar to mine, DON'T! I let my gf try STALKER (1st one) for a bit, now it's like "get the **** off of that laptop, I need my dailies in Tanks" lol. That's why I bought myself a PS3 :D

She does complain a bit if I game through all day, but that doesn't happen too aften.
 
Gimpymoo said:
How do your wifes/husbands, fiancées, partners, lovers, knock offs react to your gaming needs?

I have been with my wife for about 15 years now, from day one, I told her that gaming/computers were a hobby and that was that.

Sure, she tried to "curb" it in some ways but I stood my ground and that was that.

"Come and sit on the sofa and watch this" - Refering to some **** mind numbing reality show or Peckham Housewives or the like.

"Erm, no. It is **** so why would I do that, I will be sat 5ft away on the computer enjoying myself talking to a load of strangers who are infinitely more interesting than you. Love you though".

Also, there was:

Midnight, 1AM, 2AM: (In a angry voice)
"Will you come to bed, I cannot sleep if your not there"
"**** off, I will come to bed when I want" (maybe not those exact words, must respect the fair lady).

After a while, the message was received and I was left to it.
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Worst "I pretend I'm the boss in my relationship but really I'm a little ****** for her" thread ever!
 
She's fine, as others have mentioned she tried to curb it but a bit of compromise and have no issues. Sunday is my gaming night, I also jump on and watch football on weeknights whilst gaming, in return any other game time I just tend to leave if she is going to bed and I'm not tired.
 
Yes my partner doesn’t appreciate gaming either (yet!). I used to go out with a girl that was a gamer and it was amazing – except when she beat me when I wasn’t actually letting her win. That hurt.

Oh yes of course she tried to curb it at first but that was never going to happen. Now I suppose it’s a bit like her knitting – I have no interest in it and she can do it if she really wants to. Fill your boots with the knitting honey, I’m gaming til the early hours. I suppose she probably prefers me in, gaming, rather than out with the lads on the lash for the weekend so it’s currently the lesser of two evils.

Anyone found any good games to get vehemently-non-gaming girlfriends into gaming? I thought something like ‘Her Story’ would work but she won’t even start them. This will be a tough nut to crack…
 
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