**The Mental Health Thread**

[AHarvey]

Online gambling isn't rigged, in fact, with most of the games the house doesn't need to win as they take a small percentage of everything wagered.

Gamesys, for example, turned over £76 million the year I left, 7 years earlier they turned over £6 million. They took 5% of everything that went through the site.

Slots and casino games have volatility ratings, high volatility means less wins but larger prizes, low volatility is lots of wins but much smaller amounts. You're playing maths only, and they pay a lot of money for these algorithms. With roulette, if you put a bet on 17 the code doesn't say to avoid that number, it's random, or as random as a computer program can be.

 

[Xclockerx]

No one can be unlucky that many times and. I have had limits and it’s still frustrating online casinos are rigged look at online roulette rigged you’ll see how they use magnets funny how it’s always next door to your number when u okay a machines everyt8me you bet big on it for it to that the way it does is impossible based on the odds...

 

[AHarvey]

No one can be unlucky that many times and. I have had limits and it’s still frustrating online casinos are rigged look at online roulette rigged you’ll see how they use magnets funny how it’s always next door to your number when u okay a machines everyt8me you bet big on it for it to that the way it does is impossible based on the odds...

As I said, I spent 7 years working in online customer facing chat for online bingo and casino, as much as I hate the industry, it's not rigged.

Maybe best to start a new thread in GD talking about your beliefs as it's derailed this thread really.

 

[Xclockerx]

The house edge isn’t that much... lmao

 

[Xclockerx]

I have played with a strict limit before and even losing a tenner on roulette was frustrating so how can someone enjoy it

 

[Tefal]

Roulette is basicsly a carnival game and should be treated a such if you bet on a number its about as likley to come out as blind folded taking a shot on a dart board for a trebble

 

[ic1male]

I went to the gym today for the first time in many a year and felt really good. The dizziness I have been getting with my anxiety was completely gone. Will have to keep it up now...

 

[AHarvey]

I went to the gym today for the first time in many a year and felt really good. The dizziness I have been getting with my anxiety was completely gone. Will have to keep it up now...

Exercise is the number 1 suggestion for depression treatment, getting some sun on your skin is number 2, and for me, spend sometime in woodland, away from the internet and phones is my number 3

 

[Roar87]

The house edge isn’t that much... lmao

You're possibly an outlier, someone who has been unlucky a lot, for every person like you there's the guy who seems to win every time they play. Then obviously the majority of people will be some where in between. Just don't gamble, there's cheaper ways to get an endorphin hit.

 

[Xclockerx]

Luck has nothing to do with it the ***** rigged what are the chances everytime you play a machine and bet 8 and 11 30 comes the chances of it happening in a daily basis all the time I’ve played it is not possible

 

[Xclockerx]

Great to hear c1

 

[SixTwoSix]

Exercise is the number 1 suggestion for depression treatment, getting some sun on your skin is number 2, and for me, spend sometime in woodland, away from the internet and phones is my number 3

Absolutely agree with exercise, the sunshine I believe is due to Vitamin D which has a whole host of positive impacts on the human body plus sunshine generally feels nice.

As someone who was at the depths of despair in October last year to being the happiest i've felt for years right now, someone who thought depression/anxiety was utter nonsense and didn't believe in any kind of medication or therapy my advice is as follows.

Medication can work but for me only in conjuction with CBT every 1/2 weeks, by itself it just becomes a way to blur the edges. Exercise, drinking less alcohol and getting off social media entirely has helped massively. Reduction in caffeine helped ease the anxiety symptoms a fair bit.

if you search this thread, I posted a few times about my progress and feel i'm at the end of my mental health issues...for now. I know they can flare at any time but thanks to the excellent CBT i had via the NHS, I know my triggers and behaviours that brings these about.

A final after thought, don't be too embarrassed about telling those in your daily life what you're going through, you'll be shocked how many others have the same problems, might use the same meds and have been through the same therapy. This last 9 months has been a huge eye opener.

 

[Solus]

I feel so much pressure, and it's not all in my head.

My fiancee has crohns and an ileostomy as I have mentioned previously. I run a self employed business which I juggle around taking my daughter to and from school.

I used to be able to call on my mother and father in law for help, but this year they are extremely rarely able to help. So much so, I had to go to collect my daughter with my raging temperature and bacterial tonsillitis. All I could do was think about where I could sit as I felt so unwell.

My daughter has high functioning autism and plans are paramount. My mother in law said she would go on a school trip with her to ease anxiety. My mother in law hasn't been very well the last couple of days and she called the school this morning to cancel. This resulted in me having to discuss with the school the situation and sorting out who was going to be supervising my daughter.

This is when it dawned on me, if I don't do it, nobody will. I always have to sort the important things, whilst everyone else seems to enjoy life. I've already had discussions with my doctor about this who seems to want to pile on the anti depressants, but why? Why treat something that isn't a fault with my mind? It's the situation I am in that causes this, if anyone else lived my life they would be offered anti depressants too.

My parents would support me but they live 15 miles away and wouldn't be able to get to the school in time. My son also starts nursery next year which is going to result in me having 3 visits to the school instead of 2 whilst jiggling the business.

I'm at my wits end. I've mentioned it to my partner and my parents and I just get blanked. I don't know how to cope

 

[Cromulent]

Having a few issues at the moment, mainly with being bullied (god it sounds so wrong for a 30+-year-old man to say they are being bullied). Plus when I was in the hospital for mental health reasons I got threatened by some guy in there. Looking back I wish I had been more assertive (but unfortunately if I had punched him in the face like he deserved it would have been blamed on my mental illness and I would have had to spend even more time in that place).

At the moment I want to get away from people for six months or so. Move to the middle of nowhere and rebuild my life in a quiet place with no one to bother me. Unfortunately, due to the cost of property in the UK, I don't think I'll be able to afford the kind of place I want. I've considered moving abroad to Europe but what with Brexit coming up that plan might not be possible. I'm stuck. I need somewhere where I am far away from people, but I can't afford a place like that. I'd be highly appreciative if someone could offer some advice. I've considered a remote part of Scotland or Wales, but I haven't found a website that has anywhere like that.

 

[haz_pro]

Having a few issues at the moment, mainly with being bullied (god it sounds so wrong for a 30+-year-old man to say they are being bullied). Plus when I was in the hospital for mental health reasons I got threatened by some guy in there. Looking back I wish I had been more assertive (but unfortunately if I had punched him in the face like he deserved it would have been blamed on my mental illness and I would have had to spend even more time in that place).

At the moment I want to get away from people for six months or so. Move to the middle of nowhere and rebuild my life in a quiet place with no one to bother me. Unfortunately, due to the cost of property in the UK, I don't think I'll be able to afford the kind of place I want. I've considered moving abroad to Europe but what with Brexit coming up that plan might not be possible. I'm stuck. I need somewhere where I am far away from people, but I can't afford a place like that. I'd be highly appreciative if someone could offer some advice. I've considered a remote part of Scotland or Wales, but I haven't found a website that has anywhere like that.

I've wanted to do the same for a whole, albeit for different reasons.

Conclusion was that it is massively unaffordable to do such a thing in the UK. I did find some places in south west, and Wales - but they weren't cheap and there is of course no work.

Seems that UK living is just destined to be like sardines in a tin can!

 

[fastwunz]

Having a few issues at the moment, mainly with being bullied (god it sounds so wrong for a 30+-year-old man to say they are being bullied). Plus when I was in the hospital for mental health reasons I got threatened by some guy in there. Looking back I wish I had been more assertive (but unfortunately if I had punched him in the face like he deserved it would have been blamed on my mental illness and I would have had to spend even more time in that place).

At the moment I want to get away from people for six months or so. Move to the middle of nowhere and rebuild my life in a quiet place with no one to bother me. Unfortunately, due to the cost of property in the UK, I don't think I'll be able to afford the kind of place I want. I've considered moving abroad to Europe but what with Brexit coming up that plan might not be possible. I'm stuck. I need somewhere where I am far away from people, but I can't afford a place like that. I'd be highly appreciative if someone could offer some advice. I've considered a remote part of Scotland or Wales, but I haven't found a website that has anywhere like that.

Renting would be your only option really

 

[LuckyBenski]

I've been considering similar for a year or two. I want to rebuild my life, a lot of habits I want to change are embedded in my lifestyle with my partner and our home arrangement. I've spent long enough trying to change gradually, what I want to do is remove myself from society and start again as an improved person. Basically impossible while living in London. It would mean turning my life upside down, I've always historically done it after a breakup/leaving a job, but current partner is maybe here for the long haul.

No idea how to get from where I am, to where I want to be, and it stresses me daily living a life I want to rise above.

 

[ScoTTyBEEE]

Having a few issues at the moment, mainly with being bullied (god it sounds so wrong for a 30+-year-old man to say they are being bullied). Plus when I was in the hospital for mental health reasons I got threatened by some guy in there. Looking back I wish I had been more assertive (but unfortunately if I had punched him in the face like he deserved it would have been blamed on my mental illness and I would have had to spend even more time in that place).

At the moment I want to get away from people for six months or so. Move to the middle of nowhere and rebuild my life in a quiet place with no one to bother me. Unfortunately, due to the cost of property in the UK, I don't think I'll be able to afford the kind of place I want. I've considered moving abroad to Europe but what with Brexit coming up that plan might not be possible. I'm stuck. I need somewhere where I am far away from people, but I can't afford a place like that. I'd be highly appreciative if someone could offer some advice. I've considered a remote part of Scotland or Wales, but I haven't found a website that has anywhere like that.

I bought a campervan and just returned from 9 months in Portugal, Spain, France. There's lots of places to be alone down that way, 4g internet, solar power etc makes modern living viable whilst being mobile. I wouldn't overlook it as every now and then I head into the Welsh mountains for a bit of me time with my dog and it's a valid and very cheap way for getting away from it all quickly if the need arises.

You might find after a surfboard purchase you're happy to interact with others doing a similar thing. Join in some BBQ's etc and because most people are not British, lots of Germans you can have light conversations easily without talking about your troubles.

It did me the world of good, so much so I'm going to do it again and a few months. I'm happy to give you pointers if need be.

Also my van cost about 4k after fitting solar etc and you only need 4-500 a month once in Portugal as you pay no rent, no anything, you can live on the beach.

 

[BowdonUK]

Having a few issues at the moment, mainly with being bullied (god it sounds so wrong for a 30+-year-old man to say they are being bullied). Plus when I was in the hospital for mental health reasons I got threatened by some guy in there. Looking back I wish I had been more assertive (but unfortunately if I had punched him in the face like he deserved it would have been blamed on my mental illness and I would have had to spend even more time in that place).

I would suggest reading some books on assertive speech or watching some videos on youtube about it. All that NLP stuff etc. I'm a short guy nearly all my life so people taller than me always assume they are somehow above me in conversations. But I tend to have quite a direct way of speaking. I think it comes from self belief. Only you can be your number one fan. If you believe in yourself (but are always fair to others) then your style of talking will become more direct.

I've had people in the past attempt to bully me. But words are powerful in many ways. If someone tries to bully you with words then they are trying to force you to assume a submissive role in the conversation. For a person to actually be submissive then it becomes a subconscious reaction. We can stop that reaction and remain dominant in a conversation by either speaking directly back to them, or not focusing in on what they want to talk about, and instead switching subjects or talking about something bigger.

Natural dominance in conversation can be done by leading a conversation. If they are always coming up to you starting a conversation then you are on the defense all the time. So either start conversations back or use their conversations to ask more questions or just to talk more.

If you know you are a good person then who gives a sh!t what anyone else thinks.

 

[Cromulent]

I bought a campervan and just returned from 9 months in Portugal, Spain, France. There's lots of places to be alone down that way, 4g internet, solar power etc makes modern living viable whilst being mobile. I wouldn't overlook it as every now and then I head into the Welsh mountains for a bit of me time with my dog and it's a valid and very cheap way for getting away from it all quickly if the need arises.

You might find after a surfboard purchase you're happy to interact with others doing a similar thing. Join in some BBQ's etc and because most people are not British, lots of Germans you can have light conversations easily without talking about your troubles.

It did me the world of good, so much so I'm going to do it again and a few months. I'm happy to give you pointers if need be.

Also my van cost about 4k after fitting solar etc and you only need 4-500 a month once in Portugal as you pay no rent, no anything, you can live on the beach.

That sounds pretty awesome but unfortunately, I can't drive.

I would suggest reading some books on assertive speech or watching some videos on youtube about it. All that NLP stuff etc. I'm a short guy nearly all my life so people taller than me always assume they are somehow above me in conversations. But I tend to have quite a direct way of speaking. I think it comes from self belief. Only you can be your number one fan. If you believe in yourself (but are always fair to others) then your style of talking will become more direct.

I've had people in the past attempt to bully me. But words are powerful in many ways. If someone tries to bully you with words then they are trying to force you to assume a submissive role in the conversation. For a person to actually be submissive then it becomes a subconscious reaction. We can stop that reaction and remain dominant in a conversation by either speaking directly back to them, or not focusing in on what they want to talk about, and instead switching subjects or talking about something bigger.

Natural dominance in conversation can be done by leading a conversation. If they are always coming up to you starting a conversation then you are on the defense all the time. So either start conversations back or use their conversations to ask more questions or just to talk more.

If you know you are a good person then who gives a sh!t what anyone else thinks.

Thanks for the advice. I'll try and do that. To be honest I hadn't really thought about it until my time in the hospital and that just opened my eyes to the whole situation. I'm always being told I'm too nice and maybe that is true. Time to say no if I really want to.