Soldato
While I completely get this, it is not what I have experienced. None of my relationships ended lovelessly (so to speak).
I think it's more to do with this....
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While I completely get this, it is not what I have experienced. None of my relationships ended lovelessly (so to speak).
I think it's more to do with this....
Soldato
My ex whom dumped me over a misunderstanding 2 months ago still has 2 drawers worth of clothes at mine. She wanted the stuff a couple of days after but I realised she owed me money(not much) and I was angry at the time and told her she wont get the stuff till I get mine. Its **** that she doesn't earn that much and has expenses I understand and wish she would just it get over it. Even crapper is that I work with her and hate seeing her there and find it impossible to talk to her in person. And to top off the crapness a colleague of mine told me that she wants me back but Im not sure if hes trying to stir up trouble!
Yeah found out my ex gf's ex was texting her for a couple of weeks before we broke up and after that went and shagged him! Don't think they've actually got together again though. Wish I could move on that fast lol, but am a shy guy and all the female friends I have are in relationships already :/
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Soldato
I have a few items that ex's have given me, a tie and watch that my first girlfriend gave me, even though the watch needs a new strap and battery I've kept both just because they're nice items. Also another watch from my last girlfriend and a small gift from Rome, the first i'm not going to throw away, it is a very nice watch, and the other gift (a small statue) even though I don't have any connection to it as I didn't go to Rome with her, I haven't thrown away. But this topic of keeping presents and things from past relationships makes me ask this question, should I throw it away?
Soldato
IMO, if it's something you like/enjoy keep it. If not, throw/sell it.
Soldato
Just teach yourself how to talk to women, find something of common interest perhaps, or just about themselves, always ask 'why', if they've just moved here, get them to open up a bit.
So I have a really big decision to make...
Next month will be 4 years since I met a beautiful woman, who lives on the other side of the world (Brazil)... during this time we have been seeing each other every ~6 months or so for 1-8 weeks (due to work, money etc). It can only be me who moves there. She has now got to the point where she can't carry on like this, and wants to cut off ALL contact until we can actually be together properly, as 4 years has passed and its just been plan after plan with no end game. I wasn't ready to move for good during this time. So now I gotta decide whether to have a nice secure life here in the UK with a job etc, or make the move over there for good to be with her!
Next month will be 4 years since I met a beautiful woman, who lives on the other side of the world (Brazil)... during this time we have been seeing each other every ~6 months or so for 1-8 weeks (due to work, money etc). It can only be me who moves there. She has now got to the point where she can't carry on like this, and wants to cut off ALL contact until we can actually be together properly, as 4 years has passed and its just been plan after plan with no end game. I wasn't ready to move for good during this time. So now I gotta decide whether to have a nice secure life here in the UK with a job etc, or make the move over there for good to be with her!
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Caporegime
There is nothing in your post that suggests you want to so why would you? When people post about their relationships it's often what is not in evidence which, um, becomes the evidence.
Also, ultimatums in relationships - especially LDR's - are a terrible, terrible thing.
Since we met here in the UK, I have gone to see her 2 times, and she has come to Europe to see me 5 times.
I want to be with her. If she lived here I would be thinking about marrying her etc in the future. But moving to another country where they don't speak English is a big step in regards to finding a job, making new friends etc. I think I gotta weigh up the pros and cons and decide. I also don't like ultimatums but I see where she is coming from...maybe this is the only way for me to decide...to have no contact with her for a bit. Either way FML[FnG]magnolia;22191970 said:
Caporegime
You've seen each other seven times over 4 years?
I want to be with her. If she lived here I would be thinking about marrying her etc in the future. But moving to another country where they don't speak English is a big step in regards to finding a job, making new friends etc. I think I gotta weigh up the pros and cons and decide. I also don't like ultimatums but I see where she is coming from...maybe this is the only way for me to decide...to have no contact with her for a bit. Either way FML
So forgetting all of that stuff you posted, what's your gut feel? Is this the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with? The person you want - need - to be with? Because if you're even hesitating on a response to any of those questions, magnolia says no, I'm out.
First Year of marriage and all I can say it's the hardest.
At this moment in time, things are far from good, i'm at the point of looking at a marriage councilor.
Lots of things really
"Lack of intermacy" not just in the bedroom department but overall, which includes kissing cuddling and sharing time together.
It currently feels like we are more roommates then husband and wife. when my wife gets home from work i try and make the effort to spend some quality time with her, but she's more interested in her phone/facebook to actually realise in here. I kinda got emotionaly kicked in the stomach last nite by her saying "she didn't really enjoy it". Now im no stallion but im a romantic guy and try and do the right things.
As they say "damned if you do and damned if you dont"
At this moment in time, things are far from good, i'm at the point of looking at a marriage councilor.
Lots of things really
"Lack of intermacy" not just in the bedroom department but overall, which includes kissing cuddling and sharing time together.
It currently feels like we are more roommates then husband and wife. when my wife gets home from work i try and make the effort to spend some quality time with her, but she's more interested in her phone/facebook to actually realise in here. I kinda got emotionaly kicked in the stomach last nite by her saying "she didn't really enjoy it". Now im no stallion but im a romantic guy and try and do the right things.
As they say "damned if you do and damned if you dont"
cheers dude.
Im just keeping myself fit, i workout almost everyday, so i will just aim to make myself happier and hopefully my wife will realise i can live without her.
As all bloke we can sometimes be to keen, so im gonna start being a bit of a loof.
so when she wants it
"nah im to tired" or "got a headache"
Im just keeping myself fit, i workout almost everyday, so i will just aim to make myself happier and hopefully my wife will realise i can live without her.
As all bloke we can sometimes be to keen, so im gonna start being a bit of a loof.
so when she wants it
"nah im to tired" or "got a headache"
got a headache?
Sex is actually very good for treating some female headaches.
http://www.yourtango.com/20083537/sex-can-cure-some-headaches
Caporegime
Have you talked to her about any of this? We're your third party and don't know the background to any of your history - if she also had a third party would they get the same impression?
I think shes at that phase where she think the relationship is abit of a chore, her mindset atm is that she cant be bothered and complains a lot, coupled with low self -asteem and confidence, and no matter how much you compliment her or try and make her feel great it gets you knowhere