Soldato
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from a guys perspective if a guy claims he is interested in you but only if he can have sex then he's probably not a guy worth entertaining.
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from a guys perspective if a guy claims he is interested in you but only if he can have sex then he's probably not a guy worth entertaining.
Wow. That's a pretty **** situation to be in
I do sometimes wonder how people can be so ruthless and just 'drop' someone like that :/ It has happened to me before and it's not nice.I would say it is better that it happened now than later though. You're not as attached as you would be if it was say, 1-2 years together. No doubt she'll contact you in a few weeks or even months time to say she's made the biggest mistake of her life
Do it!
How long will your treatments go on for? These few months can be time spent getting to know people - who's to say you're going to meet someone straight away that you get along with and that you want to have sex with just after a few dates?
i think it would more than likely give you a good indication on the sort of bloke you're dating, if i had gone out with a lass a few times and got on very well with her and we started dating seriously and she told me that sex was off the table for a few months then i would be fine with that... at the end of the day if all i was doing was dating the girl to get my leg over i do not think id make the effort of building any sort of substantial connection.
all this is just my view, i haven't dated or had any sort of conversation deeper with a woman other than the missus than 'how is work lately' for nearly 14 years
i think your in a unique position to find out some important characteristics of the men you date without going through the hassle of finding out out of the blue, go ahead and date, will boost your confidence no end to get out and get talking.
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Wow. That's a pretty **** situation to be in
I would say it is better that it happened now than later though. You're not as attached as you would be if it was say, 1-2 years together. No doubt she'll contact you in a few weeks or even months time to say she's made the biggest mistake of her life
It had got increasingly serious over the last few months to the point of beginning to plan a future life together.... I don't think I'd be any deeper emotionally in 1-2 years from now, I'd be more angry at the invested time and energy of it all by then rather than being any more of an emotional train wreck.
She's got until Monday to realise what a ****tard she is being. (my personal choice of day/ date) she doesn't know this of course.
After that she'll be removed from FB and I shall never talk to her again.
Sucks to be me right now.
Built her a computer on Thursday too
will have to get that back as well. FMLI can give you that if you buy me dinner
If you're willing to dress up in a figure hugging black dress and accent your ivory skin with blood red lipstick you might be on. I'll pick the restaurant darling, you just look pretty.
Finding someone who isn't a fruit loop or emotionally dead seems to be a lot harder now I'm in my late 30's. It doesn't help that I'm on very good terms with 3 exes who are all absolutely lovely in their individual ways, and who in turn put me off lasses who don't have their qualities. I'm going to have to find a new hobby.
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/edit: Forgot to say to knip, no, to a reasonable man who's actually interested in you, it wouldn't be an issue. I was in a similar situation with one of the above mentioned exes, and we were together for quite a while, with her being a great friend now
Or Foreveralone.jpg
/edit: Forgot to say to knip, no, to a reasonable man who's actually interested in you, it wouldn't be an issue. I was in a similar situation with one of the above mentioned exes, and we were together for quite a while, with her being a great friend now
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First of all, I'm sorry to hear that and trust things are treatable. I think a few people have already said what I think : it wouldn't bother someone who actually wants to be with you for anything other than just sex. A couple of months is nothing in the scheme of a relationship and you shouldn't even be questioning yourself over this. Instead, you should be asking if you want to be with them and how they make you feel.
Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Although most blokes aren't as loving and understanding as me
If I met a bird and wanted to be with her, then waiting would just make it better
Whilst I haven't read all the thread, I've been single all my life...can I get a hug too?
*Hugs*
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As other people have said, if a guy knew the situation and wasn't ok with this, I don't think he'd be worth it
Go for it!
As other people have said, if a guy knew the situation and wasn't ok with this, I don't think he'd be worth it
Go for it!
100% this. Sex isn't everything! Give the dating thing a go knip
*Hugs*
Thanks
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Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Although most blokes aren't as loving and understanding as me
If I met a bird and wanted to be with her, then waiting would just make it better
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Broke up with my GF of 3 years, one week things are fine and this week were ending things, over the past week she started ignoring me a lot, wouldn't talk to me properly and then told me straight up that she doesn't want to be with me, telling me things arn't working out.
Fair enough but why so suddenly, she hasn't even told me a good enough reason for my own closure, I'm already going out with friend's and having a good time, it's just me wanting closure is what's eating me up inside :/
Advice?
Fair enough but why so suddenly, she hasn't even told me a good enough reason for my own closure, I'm already going out with friend's and having a good time, it's just me wanting closure is what's eating me up inside :/
Advice?
Sounds like she is seeing someone else
Does it to you?
First question would be do you want her back or not.
If so, say so and then if it's a no go then leave it (don't go grovelling)
Chin up, move on.
Oh and MisChief the video worked.
She came round. We are back on..
Does it to you?
First question would be do you want her back or not.
If so, say so and then if it's a no go then leave it (don't go grovelling)
Chin up, move on.
Oh and MisChief the video worked.
She came round. We are back on..
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Oh and MisCheif the video worked.
She came round. We are back on..
video?
Yeah she's so getting back with the ex behind your back