The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

krooton said:
Well there is an unfortunate skew in society's perception of women who haven't settled down long term by the end of their twenties. Guys seem to get away with it, but women get put under a lot of pressure to not be single in their 30s, ala Bridget Jones n whatnot.
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I've never understood this - despite it being nice to be in a relationship, if it came to it I'd see no problem with spending the rest of my life on my own.
There's an upside to being on your todd - porn and pizza night is every night! :D (not that I am, so I have to wait until she's away for the evening... :p )
 
Well after nearly 6 years, I'm back on my own.
Found one of my 'best mates' with his hands down my GFs pants last night, I'd have sparked him out but I have new carpet.

Onwards and upwards, at least my new house is a pretty sweet man cave... :D
 
The masterplan is to build the business, work at exporting stock a bit more, and buy a ****ing big house somewhere in Lancashire.
Then at 40 I can retire and drink beer for a living, while floating in a pool.

It's important to have a dream... :p
 
ci_newman said:
Not to put too much of a downer on this, but what are you going to do with your little one?
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She's going with her, but they're only local. I'll still see her loads :)
Luckily she's not crazy (just daft) so access won't be an issue.

I'll keep her room free here, too.

Unrelated, going to view a VW Phaeton W12 on Monday. I may be having some kind of crisis... :p
 
valve90210 said:
I'm having to face up the fact that I'm single, 36; have a son who in the coming weeks I will go from seeing everyday to seeing, at best, every other weekend; I'm over weight and have no friends any more and don't have the money to get out and do anything very much.

At present life feels like it's going to be a long drag until the end.
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You can change all of that, or at least turn it into positives:

- Enjoy the time you spend with your son as much as you can.
- Lose weight. I'm massively over-weight, but battling it with portion control and lots of exercise.
- Find new friends. I've made lots recently, by meeting people in pubs etc
- Change job or work on a promotion, or simply cut costs where you can.

Life is what you make it. I'm now 26 and single - and face similar challenges. You can do it.
 
valve90210 said:
I know you're right but at the moment I just can't get myself feeling positive about things when I know that in the near future my little boy will be living 100 miles away.

Once it's actually happened I think I'll be more likely to be able to get on with my life again and get into a routine and be more positive but at the moment it's hard.
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You'll see it in time, I promise. Best of luck to you. :)
 
I'm now single al4x said:
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I know exactly where you're coming from, I sort of tried to do the same in filling all of my time - then realised it's not really what I want to do, and some nights are OK to write off with a good portion of Netflix and a pizza by myself.

Personally, I'll be single for a good while now. I'm really enjoying getting into exercise, eating well, socialising and playing with my cars. Oh and work... :p
 
I have nothing too constructive to add, just that I'm doing a lot better after a few months.
Breaking up sucks, but time is the best healer - best of luck to all going through it.

Owning 3 British cars that like to break for fun takes your mind off it, too.
 
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