I agree with the above post but don’t think that it’s meant to be easy or should be easy.
I think been an attractive guy in your 30’s with choice, including hot younger girls in there 20’s, and I’ve had to learn all this and work on it. Means.
1. Work at the gym which includes self motivation even when you don’t want to do it. If you don’t hate the sight of the gym and or the weights your not doing it right.
2. staying off alcohol at least 2/3 days a week
3. learning to cook and eat healthily
4. hopefully benefiting from your lack of bad choices earlier in life
5. Learning game and been able to manage girls in the psychological as that’s where they exist primarily. You have to be able to confidently manage her moods or she will work this out and manipulate you. This is even more important with hot younger girls as she’s had a lifetime already of guys trying to hit on her.
6. Learning to ruthlessly and confidently cold approach girls in person and warm approaching during evenings / bar scene. You have to be able to take positives from every interaction, not be ego invested in outcomes or take anything personally. Trust me she won’t. She will forget about you instantly if she’s a hot girl and you drop the ball.
7. Having money. This is going to look different for different guys but you need to be not broke with some savings and some buffers against potential issues. Hot girls don’t want broke guys generally speaking, especially in there 30’s, although there are exceptions. Learn how to manage and invest your money.
8. Having a clean place which has a masculine edge to it
9. Reading lots of books so you have things to talk about and a view on the world
10. Going to places where there is a greater abundance of hot girls so you can learn quicker. London, Manchester, Ibiza. Barcelona, Lisbon, Bratislava. Most small towns are terrible for learning as there are too few hot girls so your never going to win, again she knows this, so go where your treated better due to the abundance.
11. A lot of this will likely have to be done on your own as your average 30’s guy is probably holding onto a crumbling social circle from earlier in life due to friends having kids etc but be on the look out for new friends who are interested in this also. Having competition is a great motivator.
12. Understanding feminine nature and what they are really all about at different phases in there life. Men and women are different.
13. Understanding that we have all spent too much time behind screens as young men these days and it’s retarded our social acuity. You have to push past all this and get better.
14. Moderating your use of porn.
15. Been aware of the “yes girl” dynamic. The handful of times your getting action from a night out or your social circle or even online dating doesn’t mean what your doing is good enough. Your just finding a “yes girl”. You’d have to do a lot wrong in that situation. You need to be turning maybe’s into yes’s and then you can act from a position of abundance and at the very least choose from a few options rather than “I’ve found a girl which will touch me” which is the position most guys choose from.
16. Not been afraid to disagree with her or call out her bad behaviour. Listen to her and take her opinion into consideration because your not a misogynist but your having a sexual relationship with her she’s not one of your bros. Attraction isn’t born out of been a pushover it’s born out of her feeling like you can protect her, lead and look after her. It’s not easy this and it’s a burden as a man but your reward is her sexuality and genuine (not obligated) desire.
There are more than enough resources on the internet and in books for a guy who actually wants to do this. You just have to want it enough. We live in a time when everything is instant, on demand and available on credit. This isn’t like this at all. It takes work which people don’t want to do.
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