I never thought I'd be posting this, but I literally have no one to advise about things like this offline. I've been with my partner for seven years. We've been engaged for two and were hoping to marry within the next 18 months. I recently returned to university as a mature student (35) and discussed the implications of this with my partner before hand. In short, it was decided that it was a good idea and she encouraged me to do it. Roll on two months and we go out for a meal together. I could tell something wasn't right from the off. She was very quiet and distant. We arrive home and I ask her to tell me what's wrong. It was like getting blood from a stone. It turns out that she doesn't love me as much as she used to, and worse, that she resents having to pay some of the bills while I'm studying. She also implied that she wants to have children earlier than I want to and that she feels our relationship is directionless, whilst all her friends are married and have kids. This came as a complete shock, so much so that even now I don't know how to mentally process what she has said. I only returned to uni to better myself and ultimately build a better life for us both in the future. All of my plans involve her, and now I think I've lost her.
I honestly thought our relationship was stronger and that we could discuss any issues rather than bottling them up. I asked her if she still loves me and she said "well, yes." I feel like I'm about to lose my best friend. It's like I've spent almost a decade getting to know someone only to find out I hardly know them at all.
/emotional-vent
Advice, hugs.....beer, welcomed.