you can turn off autoplay in the options.
I was under no illusion there wouldn't be an option for it; my point was more it looked good, but I was happy with what I had so wasn't bothered enough to take a look
On another note, much as I do really like Oxygen, there's still a few things to be dealt with on it (the web browser for example isn't as nice as HTC's fiddled one), so until thats a little later on, I'm going to give Leedroid a go.
Hope I don't see too many issues with battery life, as a tweaked sense would seem right up the street of what Im after (happy with features, just would like extra battery/performance). Oxygen was nippy, and battery life was promising, but I was missing the HTC apps, and a little polish that I think Oxygen was lacking at current.

(also I had a really wierd issue with dropping wireless, but not sure if that was just coincidence or this newest radio I flashed to as it was recommended for Defrost)
I tried Defrost and it didn't bother me actually, wasn't quite as nippy as Oxygen, and I didn't see anything that really made it stand out.
Might also try Leedroid, but throw Zeam onto it (the loader from Oxygen), that way I'll have all the benefits of HTC's modified apps, with the speed of Zeam
