Why cant i get a girlfriend?

Kell_ee001 · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:13

Shep_Cobain said:
surely i should be out there nailing everything under the sun while im young?

If you want to I guess but you'll find it even harder to get a decent girlfriend.

Shep_Cobain · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:13

z0mbi3 said:
I'm not sure what your wanting from this thread. The best advice has already been given.

Stop actively looking for someone, stop all the "giggity" crap and stop trying to hit on drunkard girls who sleep with anything that moves (except you).

I agree advice has been given and im very grateful. However... my point is ... is it me?

Am i the problem or is it girls or is there no problem that exists and im just thinking to hard about it?

Point being... the majority of my mates have girlfriends.... the other lot have casual sex with girls all the time. But i have neither....

So im obviously doing something wrong... or just not doing anything at all!

I do want a girlfriend yeh... but whilst i find one - whether it takes another 3 years or 3 days... - isnt casual sex a good thing to have in life?

Damien. · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:15

Shep_Cobain said:
lol i new the car would come in handy.

I used to have what i considered amongst one of the best RS Turbo's in the Uk. I can tell you its not a car for pulling girls.

Change it.

wordy · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:16

There's a few girls who post on here, why don't you ask one of them out?

Shep_Cobain · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:17

Damien. said:
I used to have what i considered amongst one of the best RS Turbo's in the Uk. I can tell you its not a car for pulling girls.

Change it.

lol... yeh... TBH most girls i know or have spoken to hate them coz they are square lol!!!!

neocon · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:17

whats a decent gf anyway?

you want someone moaning at you all the time?

buy a dog if you get lonely

Damien. · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:18

Shep_Cobain said:
lol... yeh... TBH most girls i know or have spoken to hate them coz they are square lol!!!!

Square, noisey, uncomfortable, basic.

need i go on ?

I dont know why i kept mine for so long. One of my G/F threatened to leave me if i didnt sell the car, i chose the car and the one after that wouldnt let me park it on her parents' drive.

Shep_Cobain · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:19

wordy said:
There's a few girls who post on here, why don't you ask one of them out?

Because its no effort is it. You can pretend to be whoever on the net and your never yourself therefore the girl can meet you and think god hes no way near what is like in real life... or if you are yourself like i would be then sometimes the girl can have unreal expectations.

Shep_Cobain · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:19

Damien. said:
Square, noisey, uncomfortable, basic.

need i go on ?

noisy? mines nice and quiet and its comfortable....

jakeke · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:20

Blokey57 said:
Because you have a modicum of decency?

I'm getting confused, you're going on about not getting a girlfriend, then you moan about missing out on a gangbang.

HAHA

Anyway to properly respond to your query, I think you really need to tone down a little in terms of desperation. Relax a bit, take things as they come and don't be too eager, girls don't really like a guy who is all over them, most of them like a certain amount of space! Also, stop looking for girlfriends in nightclubs!

krooton · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:20

Shep_Cobain said:
All my mates are lads.

Ding ding ding!

So your social skills with women outside of a "phwoar" scenario are most likely rather lacking.

he only types of women that respond to that are the drunken slapper, as they are the same.

MookJong · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:21

Your only 20 man, you will struggle to find the kind of relationship your after unless you find an older girl.

Spend the next couple of years becoming a more rounded person who has experienced life a little more, travel, seen a bit of the world, teach yourself new skills become older and wiser. Somewhere along this path love will find you.

Shep_Cobain · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:24

krooton said:
Ding ding ding!

So your social skills with women outside of a "phwoar" scenario are most likely rather lacking.

he only types of women that respond to that are the drunken slapper, as they are the same.

But as i said i deal with the general public all the time. I speak with my mates girlfriends, all the people in my full time job are women!

Shep_Cobain · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:25

MookJong said:
Your only 20 man, you will struggle to find the kind of relationship your after unless you find an older girl.

Spend the next couple of years becoming a more rounded person who has experienced life a little more, travel, seen a bit of the world, teach yourself new skills become older and wiser. Somewhere along this path love will find you.

The best advice yet to be fair. Youve obviously read everything ive posted and said what you feel is true. However a lot of people are reading patches and posting irrelevant comments!

MookJong · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:27

Shep_Cobain said:
But as i said i deal with the general public all the time. I speak with my mates girlfriends, all the people in my full time job are women!

What do you do outside of work, what are your hobbies?

fail at the internets · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:38

Dun Dun Dun OP post a picture of yourself.

semi-pro waster · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:39

neocon said:
whats a decent gf anyway?

you want someone moaning at you all the time?

buy a dog if you get lonely

I suspect the RSPCA might be round if you insist on using Fido as a girlfriend subsitute.

Shep_Cobain said:
I agree advice has been given and im very grateful. However... my point is ... is it me?

Shep_Cobain said:
Because its no effort is it. You can pretend to be whoever on the net and your never yourself therefore the girl can meet you and think god hes no way near what is like in real life... or if you are yourself like i would be then sometimes the girl can have unreal expectations.

You are asking people if the problem (assuming it is actually a problem) here is you and then saying that you can appear to be anything on the internet. How on Earth do you expect anyone to be able to diagnose you fairly when we don't know you is beyond me.

Why not ask some of your close friends, they are more likely to have decent insight into your personality than some random folks from the internet.

Shep_Cobain · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:41

MookJong said:
What do you do outside of work, what are your hobbies?

no hobbies. Dont have any lol... just see my mates and do whatever... go park and play footy, go out in cars for a cruise. Go beacon fell for a walk etc. Just an outgoing friendly guy basically.

Shep_Cobain · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:42

semi-pro waster said:
You are asking people if the problem (assuming it is actually a problem) here is you and then saying that you can appear to be anything on the internet. How on Earth do you expect anyone to be able to diagnose you fairly when we don't know you is beyond me.

Why not ask some of your close friends, they are more likely to have decent insight into your personality than some random folks from the internet.

Mate... that was an example of why i dont want the internet to find a girlfriend..... :confused:

Not saying its what i would do but giving an example of what other people can do etc.

Kemik · 2 Jul 2008 at 12:44

Read "The mystery method" and "Magic Bullets".

I'll probably get flamed but after reading it I could see where I was going wrong. Cinema is a bad place to take a girl because there's no where to talk. The two books above only really work on the more mature girls (19/20+) but can be adapted fairly easy for 18/19 year olds. Anyone under that is mainly judged by your social status at school.

Read them. The worst that happens is you think they're rubbish and have wasted a few hours of your life.