I have been suspended from work today.

[Nevakonaza]

I suggest visiting Citizens advice about this,Regardless of the outcome,But if you said something about someone and there was a witness,i hardly call this sack able that would be a bit OTT..a warning at least.

 

[something daft already!!]

It would benefit you to take someone versed in employment law, in case they try and take advantage. Are you a member of a union?

 

[booyaka]

Just received a letter. I have disciplinary hearing on Monday. In the letter there is written statements from the 2 offended people and the personnel clerk who was contacted. I have read them through. I can bring someone with me if needed. Not really sure if i need one to be frank, either ill get the boot or keep my job but I am leaning on the side of getting the boot tbh.

How can having someone there be beneficial to me in this case?

Getting sacked for "gross misconduct" never looks good on your CV - no matter how you polish it up!

I would suggest taking someone with you for certain. At worse, if they want to throw the book at you, I would suggest trying to cut a deal with them that you apologise to the members involved and resign, rather than getting fired for gross misconduct.

It might be a poor way out of the situation - however think of the longer term future in terms of jobs etc.

 

[Droolinggimp]

Can a Representative say anything during the hearing?

 

[MooMoo444]

Yes, they could say everything and you almost nothing. They're representing you.

 

[Caged]

I had colleagues on Facebook at a job a few years ago, never done it since. I might add people once I leave but it's unlikely. Too much drama can be caused that way.

 

[wndsr]

It's ****ing work place jokes and banter.

Generally this is where a lot of people go wrong. Rightly or wrongly, work is generally for just that, work. Anything 'jokey' or 'banter' should probably be confined to the pub after work.

 

[SexyGreyFox]

I worked on factories for 33 years and never once did I hear of someone telling on somebody because we'd sort it out while management pretended they didn't see and other times I've got between people fighting. However, it would all die down and we'd carry on working together.
The first time I saw somebody tell tales was in 2008 when I moved to the NHS and it was new territory for me to see that. I now see it all the time.

 

[wndsr]

The first time I saw somebody tell tales was in 2008 when I moved to the NHS and it was new territory for me to see that. I now see it all the time.

It's quite sad really. I manage a small team now in my current role and I'm forever listening to other people managers come to me and moan about something somebody in my team has done without actually addressing it with them first.

 

[SexyGreyFox]

It's quite sad really. I manage a small team now in my current role and I'm forever listening to other people managers come to me and moan about something somebody in my team has done without actually addressing it with them first.

There are 8 of us in our team with me and the Director being the only men.
Four of the women are always going into his office complaining about one or the other where it's now got to the point this very week where he said 'Sort it yourselves like adults or I'll get HR in'.

 

[wndsr]

There are 8 of us in our team with me and the Director being the only men.
Four of the women are always going into his office complaining about one or the other where it's now got to the point this very week where he said 'Sort it yourselves like adults or I'll get HR in'.

Sounds like our place. Some of the people doing most of the moaning/telling tales are double my age... Very concerning!

 

[BluD]

Some people arent happy unless theyre moaning about somthing, and they only get worse as they get older.

 

[Rroff]

Some people arent happy unless theyre moaning about somthing, and they only get worse as they get older.

Some people are strange - used to work with someone who'd moan to the boss every time someone took like 30 seconds longer than their break time, if someone was off sick, etc. etc.

 

[Caged]

It's quite sad really. I manage a small team now in my current role and I'm forever listening to other people managers come to me and moan about something somebody in my team has done without actually addressing it with them first.

Well, yeah. Why would you expect somebody who isn't in the chain of management of the individual in question to go to someone that you manage with an issue? If I were managing a team of people I wouldn't fancy being bypassed in that way.

I'd expect as a first port of call for the two colleagues to try sorting it out amongst themselves, though.

 

[wndsr]

Well, yeah. Why would you expect somebody who isn't in the chain of management of the individual in question to go to someone that you manage with an issue? If I were managing a team of people I wouldn't fancy being bypassed in that way.

I'd expect as a first port of call for the two colleagues to try sorting it out amongst themselves, though.

Because what type of conversation am I going to have with my own colleague?

"Hey Jimmy, I have some feedback from somebody else who was present at that meeting last Tuesday. I know I wasn't there to witness first hand, but here goes..."

Not sure that gives my colleague the opportunity to improve? If said colleague had ignored or disregarded the feedback provided by another manager then I'd be more interested.

 

[Infidelus]

Some people aren't happy unless they're moaning about something, and they only get worse as they get older.

OI! I resemble that comment!

PS, I've fixed your grammar too

 

[pioneer2000]

Shouldn't you be working at work, not spending ages making random you tube videos?

 

[Raymond Lin]

Shouldn't you be working at work, not spending ages making random you tube videos?

I'm confused, did you do this on work PC, or in work time?

If not, why should a comedy video you posted on your own social media wall affect your job?

I don't really understand.

For the record

I did it at home in my own time on my own PC. Comedy video that takes the **** and insults others like they insulted me over the years. Obviously my sense of humour is wrong.

The company does have a Social media policy that I have broken so it seems. However we do have a dedicated colleague page on social media that 10k staff members are on and the crap that is on there would get them the sack instantly.

 

[The_Abyss]

I'm quite comfortable having work colleagues on Facebook - I have a pretty small network anyway - about 120 or so - and around 10 - 15 of them are from my current employer. But equally I'm pretty conservative about what I share and how I say it. I was brought up in a similar way to Raymond - the 'what would your mother think about that' test applies to most things.

 

[Droolinggimp]

And it was never stated it was a youtube video pioneer2000. Cheers Raymondlin for that post.

Anyway. Just got back from the local pub (where I sent my CV and cover letter) had a few beers and was actually served by the manager, who is the wife to be of my ex fish trainee from many years ago. He is now the assistant manager and his to be is manager of the pub.

I introduced myself and asked if she received the CV and cover letter and she said yes, thank you very much, I have been busy today but can you come Monday 11am for interview? Oh and thank you for the cover letter. its the first one I have seen in years.

All with a big smile and eye contact. To me that is positive.

The interview is 3 and half hours before my disciplinary. All being well I may know before I go to work if I have the job and I will also have resignation letter and a ****ing great big ace up my sleeve the ace will be played regardless if I get sacked or not. this is on professional advice.