just bought one of these, what game should i start with and any settings or anything like that to change ?
First steps is what you should start with. Nice introduction to the controls, and if it's your first time, a brilliant introduction. I'm sure many of us spent our first hour or so in VR giggling away whilst flying an RC blimp, and then shooting rockets at it (just me?).
Download the oculus app onto your PC, and sign into your headset with a cable to the PC, even if you don't have a good enough cable to play on yet (or PC for that matter), so you can claim a free copy of Asgards Wrath, a huge RPG game, that's currently free until the end of the month.
Beat saber and Superhot are two classics. Superhot I'd say wait for a sale personally. There's other cheaper rhythm games though, pistol whip looks good but I haven't tried it.
Try out Rec Room, lots of kids, but an enormous amount of games to play, from battle royale to adventures, all in a relatively cartoony style, good fun if you can avoid screaming/obnoxious kids. It's free, which is nice

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Real VR fishing is brilliant for relaxing, especially if you know someone else with a headset, but the community is really chilled regardless. I play with my old man weekly (when we are able), since we've not been able to see each other for over a year now.
Eleven table tennis is extremely realistic, I'd love to be able to play more, but I need more space than I can currently use.