@bakes0310 So six years in, it's not uncommon for there to either be actual conversations around the bits you've mentioned ie marriage, kids etc. Depending on your age, these can start feeling a bit pressured.
You've said that you have effectively joined your finances, with the mortgage, but some of the things you've raised as points sound like you don't feel like an adult yet. Do you have autonomy (and do you use it - so saying "I'll take charge of getting the kitchen done, just give me the budget") or do you tend to ask for permission for your decisions, so she feels responsible? Are you both trying to do up the house yourselves in your spare time, and that's another area of stress?
As Nitefly says, communication is absolutely key here. The way you have described this sounds like when you are at your parents, you feel you have escaped, and you start thinking about how that escape can be permanent. The question for me would be - are you trying to escape the consequences of adulthood (mortgage, housework, finances, possibly the marriage etc bits), or trying to escape being around your partner? If the former, it's up to you how you want to cope with that stuff - or not. If the latter, you need to find out if change is possible for her, because it won't happen magically.
I say this as someone who a few years ago found themselves staying late at the office, or making sure I was at another part of any joint party, because I was trying to escape my partner - I thought they were moaning *all the time* and it did my head in. Counselling and communication has helped us a lot, but it's hard work to change how you deal with stuff if it's pretty engrained behaviour, and they have to want to change it. You may also find you have to change too, so you can meet in the middle.
Ask yourself this - can you see yourself living with this environment in two years time?
, I live in a mid size town full of mostly older people. People tell me I look like I'm in my mid-early twenties, but I'm actually a bit older *looks shifty*.
