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Totally off-topic but there's a blast from the past. Good to see you back.
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It can be a genuine concern if the difference is massive, having a partner who wants a 2 week all inclusive trip to Cuba every year but earns minimum wage and wants you to put up most of the cost is going to cause resentment. If that's the case though you should be able to refuse or explain why you won't be going ahead with it.
I didn't even realise Men gave a **** how much their partner earned, is that even a thing? I care more about whether she's willing to do her half of the chores than her salary. Incidentally mine earns slightly more than me, though works more hours.
Ha ha normally I'm supportive to people and say if it's not working out just leave but the excuse she earns less than you is the most pathetic excuse I've ever heard in my life, my wife has always earned less than me during the 15 years we've been together but not once have I thought "this is it, this woman doesn't earn enough for me to love her".
The line about both your attitudes to having kids though is definitely a deal breaker and you should split straight away, what is the point of being with someone who you don't share the same long term plan as it will only build resentment.
TBH honest do her a favour and dump that way she can meet someone who is happy with her for who she is and her paltry wages.
pretty much.Well yeah you both still have to pay your way, her earning minimum wage doesn't mean I wouldn't be with her, it does mean we won't be going on £3kpp trips though.
Indeed, though not sure that's entirely what he meant by that but if it was...
My mom had held an EXTREMELY well paying 6 figure job in the lofty heights of NHS management, my dad's a painter and decorator that struggles to make minimum wage. Never once heard them arguing about how to split money or the like. Might ask them about it next time I see them actually.
I have a slight dilemma (not a bad one by a long shot but still quite bad)
I've been with my girlfriend for just over a year now, we still get on perfectly fine however;
She 100% never wants kids and I eventually do
She works shifts and I work a standard 9-5 (this can be worked around but sometimes don't see here for 5 - 7 days at a time)
She earns quite a bit less money than me (1/3) which would make things like trips and holidays more difficult
She hates my mother for some reason - even though she has only met her twice ever
I have recently started talking to another more local girl and we get on, we have been for coffee a few times and she's been back to mine but nothing has happened.
She has a boyfriend (5+ years) but from what she has told me, they don't have much in common.
She is going to tell him soon we have been hanging out.
I want to do the same but don't think this will go down well at all, at the same time I'm not sure I want to outright split up with her because A. I think I still love her B. this other girl may possibly carry things on with her boyfriend, leaving me no-where.
Should I...
A. Tell her I have been speaking to another girl
B. Outright break up because of reasons listed above
C. Tell her nothing and wait to see how things pan out
D. Something else?
What’s the difference between cheating and hanging out?
Is she cheating on her boyfriend by have a couple of drinks with someone she knows?
If you are in a relationship with someone and dont think its going too well then have a drink with someone of the opposite sex (or same sex is gay) then there must be an aweful lot of cheaters!
What’s the difference between cheating and hanging out?
Is she cheating on her boyfriend by have a couple of drinks with someone she knows?
If you are in a relationship with someone and dont think its going too well then have a drink with someone of the opposite sex (or same sex is gay) then there must be an aweful lot of cheaters!
We (me and current girlfriend) have discussed the kids situation and agreed to stay on as we currently are at the moment - both seeing each other but knowing it will not last.
Who knows, maybe she is ‘monkey branching’ too
A friend of mine told me a story the other day that was pretty tragic. One of her mates is "dating" a married man. This guy has two kids, one being only 4 months old. He and his wife have been together for a decade, married two years. The wife doesn't know about the affair, and is presently full-steam ahead sorting Christmas for them all. She has posted a load of pictures on Facebook recenty; presents, decorations, kids having fun etc, yet is totally oblivious to what's going on. The girl he is cheating on his wife with is a cocaine addict with prolific history of sleeping around. I admit I don't know what happens behind closed doors, but why any man (or woman) would destroy a family, boggles the mind. As does why any woman would want to get involved with someone who is married. Crazy world.
We (me and current girlfriend) have discussed the kids situation and agreed to stay on as we currently are at the moment - both seeing each other but knowing it will not last.
Who knows, maybe she is ‘monkey branching’ too